live lean

How to Banish Worry and be Thankful Everyday.

By Brad Beckstrom

Everybody’s got stuff. Not the stuff you might be thinking, like knickknacks, or closets full of junk. I’m talking about the stuff in your head. It’s something we all have. Those thoughts and worries that creep in. They can keep you up at night or distract you during the day. This stuff is not unique to people based on age, race, marital status, or station in life. In fact, it can be argued that the healthy and the wealthy often have even more of this stuff. As rapper notorious B.I.G. famously said “Mo Money = Mo Problems.” He had them both, and he was dead at 25.

Sometimes I’ll be on a great walk listening to a podcast or an audiobook and find that I missed entire parts of it as my mind wanders off and goes to this “stuff.” Sometimes other people’s stuff creeps into my head. Things I have absolutely no control over, but there they are, pissing me off.

One thing that makes me feel better is understanding that everybody has this stuff in their head, worrying about a family member, their health, some work-related issue, or something that popped up in a random tweet. You know the feeling, “WTF, that can’t be true, how can they do that! Let me see that link, let’s dive in so we can worry more about this.” [Read more…] about How to Banish Worry and be Thankful Everyday.

Frugal versus Cheap

11/21 by The Frug 3 Comments

Frugal versus Cheap

Warren Buffett, one of the world’s richest men, and the most successful investor of the 20th century still lives in the home he purchased in 1957 for $31,000. At the same time, he’s pledged billions, billions with an (s) to the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation. Warren Buffett is frugal but not cheap. Frugal people (or Frugs) are sometimes called cheap because they wear older clothing, drive old cars, skip expensive luxuries. I believe there are a few key differences between being frugal and being cheap. Here they are:

Frugal people are not afraid to spend on others.

Someone who’s cheap may shortchange someone on something as simple as a well-deserved tip. Sometimes the bellman, the excellent server, or the maids that cleaned your hotel room are the people who need that tip the most. Always tip generously for good service. Cheap people may skip a charitable donation or ignore others in need. Saving, so there’s more to spend on others, is one of the most rewarding parts of being frugal.

Frugs don’t buy cheap stuff or sacrifice quality to save a buck.

Cheap people often buy cheap stuff, on SALE. Walk into any big box store and you’ll see some of the most beautifully packaged and presented junk anywhere this side of the western hemisphere. To be truly frugal, don’t replace anything until it’s worn out or unrepairable. When the time does come to replace that necessary appliance etc., search for quality and value. Who knows, in your search you may find you don’t need that new item at all. At the very least, you’ll want to find something you know will last for years and avoid the hassle of having to replace it or repair it in the near future.

Frugs don’t have FOMO

This is what I call it the “think it over skill” that Frugs have. A cheap person may snatch up a sale item for FOMO. Fear of missing out on the deal without thinking about the real cost of every item you add to your pile of stuff.

If you don’t have the “think it over” skill, here’s a quick remedy that really works. When making a significant purchase, just wait 1 day. One day. You may find the impulse to purchase it goes away or the sale will be over and you won’t want to buy it at all. That’s it, just wait one day. If after thinking about it and looking at options (like what is already in your closet) then buy something that will last a decade.

A frugal person would not skip necessities.

Someone who is cheap may skip an important doctor’s appointment or drive around on bald and dangerous tires to save a buck. Part of the benefit of being frugal is saving to assure necessities for you and your family are met. A garage and basement full of stuff won’t do you any good from a hospital bed.

Speaking of hospital beds, a Frug sees the benefits of living lean, like avoiding the 99 cent value menu because there is really not much value there at all.

In many ways, making health a top priority (yes, even over work) pays great dividends. Fitness is a great substitute for the latest styles. For years, I thought replacing perfectly good clothing going from a 32 waist to a 36 was just part of the aging process. A frugal person will be able to replace something when it’s truly worn out versus getting rid of clothes that just don’t fit anymore. I’ve decided to stop at 36 or maybe even go backward a bit. Everyone is different but adding, long term financial benefits to fitness helps motivate me.

Frugal people or (Frugs) look at the real cost of ownership versus buying something just because it’s a great deal.

Another benefit of living lean. Time. The more cheap stuff we bring into our lives, the more time we need to spend repairing it, storing it, cleaning it, shopping for it, and finally getting rid of it. A Frug understands the value in not owning something at all, and the freedom of living lean, freeing up time for a more experiential lifestyle.

Frugal people practice moderation and understand the virtues of delayed gratification.

Fugal people aren’t afraid to spend on experiences they’ve saved for. They understand that experiences have far more value than stuff. While a cheap person may skip travel or a nice meal in a restaurant altogether, a frugal person understands that by saving on life’s everyday expenses, they are pursuing a goal of adventure and experiences.

Cheat sheet for being Frugal versus Cheap.

Frugal people are not afraid to spend on others.
Frugal people (Frugs) look at the real cost of ownership versus buying something just because it’s a great deal.
Don’t buy cheap stuff or sacrifice quality to save a buck.
Frugs don’t skip necessities like healthy food, medical treatment or important repairs.
Frugal people practice moderation and understand the virtues of delayed gratification.

The Frug

Let’s Clean This Mess Up.

05/21 by The Frug 5 Comments

What you can learn from a minimalist lifestyle even if you’re nowhere close to adopting it.

By Brad Beckstrom

Minimalism is hard. After five years of working on it, I’m not even close to my original goal of a vastly simpler lifestyle. I’ve worked on applying minimalist ideas in everything I do. I’ve slowly realized that for me there is not some ultimate minimalist goal or destination. The reason is that there’s always stuff coming into our lives. And it’s not just our stuff, it’s our family stuff, our work stuff, stuff related to our home, our hobbies, our kids. The average American home has 300,000 things in it. So, I guess my family’s making progress — we’ve gotten rid of about 50,000 of these things over the past five years.

I think part of the reason adopting a minimalist outlook is hard is that many of us have lived our lives doing the opposite. It’s only much later, after decades of accumulating stuff, that we realize it’s all really just weighing us down. Given this, it’s going to take some time to unravel all that.

One of the interesting things I’ve found is that you can apply minimalism to a lot more than just cleaning out closets and garages. Over these past five years, I’ve developed everything from minimalist investing strategies, work habits, and exercise routines.

As I’ve been working to apply minimalist principles, I look around and notice people adding more more more. Like spending 30 minutes driving to and from a CrossFit Gym to spend hard-earned dollars on increasingly complex workout routines. Constantly bringing complexity into life with high-tech toys often built into expensive new vehicles and smart appliances. Using social media, news apps, and productivity apps to create more and more urgent notifications. Complex volatile investment schemes involving everything from cryptocurrency to meme stocks. Utilizing multiple tools and technologies that were designed to lighten the load, but instead, end up adding hours to the average workday.

Let’s simplify this stuff.

I don’t think anyone will ever look at me and my home or family and say “Oh, that guy is a minimalist”. For me it’s not about that, it’s about applying minimalist principles to one part of your life at a time and making small improvements. So, in the spirit of minimalism, if we could apply just one idea across everything we do it would make a big difference. Here’s one idea I use: [Read more…] about Let’s Clean This Mess Up.

The Secret to Running The Business of You.

01/20 by The Frug Leave a Comment

By Brad Beckstrom

“Have a small nut; that’s the key to life.”

Graham Parker.

What’s an aging rock ‘n roller to do, the once big recording contracts, the limos, seven-figure tour revenue all start to trickle away? Graham Parker, a British punk rock pioneer, knows exactly what to do: enjoy life, have a great time, and keep making music. Graham’s quote “Have a small nut; that’s the key to life” sums up one of the core principles of financial independence. The small nut he’s referring to is not assets, but monthly expenses. Rock stars, athletes, entrepreneurs, everyday folks all hit the same wall. We hear these stories all the time, from the extreme, like Mike Tyson blowing through $400 million and ending up homeless, to the highflying salesperson that overextended themselves, justifying their current expenses on future income fantasies, only to be chop blocked at the knees by a corporate reorg or downsizing.

Professional athletes know this story all too well. The average career in the NFL is about four years. In major league baseball, it’s a little over five years. Knowing this, it seems crazy when you see young athletes, blowing their entire signing bonus, borrowing against it before they even get a check. The secret is to do the opposite, save the entire bonus along with any windfalls, and keep your monthly expenses to a minimum. [Read more…] about The Secret to Running The Business of You.

What Are the Odds of You Existing?

09/19 by The Frug 1 Comment

Before you achieve anything today, you are already a very successful 850 Centillion to one shot. Vikings, Pilgrims, Veterans and Vagabonds. Your odds of even existing are oh-so-slim.

That’s right, the odds of you existing right now are about 1 in 10^2685000. That’s a 10 with a couple of million zeros after it.

If we go back just 10 generations, the number is still far north of 1 in 100 Centillion. That’s 100 with 303 zeros after it.

Once you get past 100 Centrillion, there’s no need to keep counting the zeros unless you’re in a lab somewhere at MIT. Other folks were smart enough to crank these numbers for us. See infographic below.

Why did I bother to look this up? Over the years, various relatives have collected some interesting family tree information. A few years back, I took some time and put all of this info into ancestry.com. Ancestry.com is a great way to research and link your family history. Once you put in the basic data, grandparents great-grandparents etc. your family info is cross-referenced with millions of genealogy records worldwide.

Sometimes you get lucky. A distant cousin, or someone with similar records, put in additional information dating back many generations. Some family histories are already very well documented. You can now even submit your DNA to the database and match the location and ethnicity results against a global database. Talk about putting it all out there!

For example, my grandmother on my father’s side was a Horton. This side of the family is so well documented there are actually books written about them! I found well researched records allowing me to match siblings up with parents and birth records through the generations to provide matches on one side all the way back to a 9th Great Grandfather — William Million born in Middlesex, England in 1600.

Wars, famines, plagues

I started thinking about all the things, wars, famines, plagues, and even low sperm counts over 10 generations since 1600 that could have precluded my existence. This is only one quarter of the picture, what about the Irish on the other side of the family or my grandfather’s family origins in Finland and Sweden, no doubt descendants of Vikings. The odds of me or my family being here just keep getting smaller and smaller.

Start, Stop, and Continue.

08/18 by The Frug 2 Comments

The big things I started doing, stopped doing, and continued to do on my journey to financial independence.

By Brad Beckstrom

A few months after I started my first real job, some nice folks from HR came to our regional meeting and did some “break out exercises” with our office. One of the exercises I remember was called: Start, Stop, Continue. We sat around in a circle and everyone discussed things in the office that they’d like to start to happen, stop happening, or continue to happen.

I’ll always remember this particular session because some people in the office obviously wanted to get some things off their chest and saw this as a great opportunity?! One of the recommendations was a certain manager stop yelling at field employees using the speakerphone on his desk, with his office door open. Everyone wholeheartedly agreed that this was great thing to stop doing. Or I think some people just hoped it would be a good idea to pick up the receiver and close your office door (back when people had actual offices).

Just when we were ready to move on to the next item our regional manager said “Wait a second, you’re talking about me! If you’re going to call me out on something why don’t you just say who you’re all talking about!” Our HR facilitator immediately intervened to smooth out the situation and then recommended we all stretch. I remember these times fondly, but don’t miss them. Our office really was “The Office” with meetings, weekly numbers, HR, late reports, managers, drama, all of it. The stop list was the longest list by the end of our exercise. The exercise had a big impression on me personally, well, hey I was 26. Ever since then I’ve always tried to look at things that I can start doing, stop doing, or continue doing in life.

For those of us pursuing financial independence and freedom from the corporate grind, offices, commutes, managers, and meetings, it’s important to keep those start, stop, continue ideas coming. Whether you’re looking to achieve financial independence through starting your own company, or aggressively saving and retiring early, it’s important to look at your own habits first.

Here are the most important things that I started, stopped or continued doing on my journey to financial independence. [Read more…] about Start, Stop, and Continue.